Fear of Flying? Learn from Real Airline Pilots
We're not therapists. We're airline pilots who fly 737s, 777s, and regional jets. Learn what makes flying routine for us.

*Not our actual simulator—that's our founder and his daughter in a 777 sim. Yes, Julian flies the triple-seven. No, his daughter does not... yet.
How It Works
Three simple steps to understanding flight from the pilot's perspective
Book
Choose a consultation or simulator session that fits you.
Learn
An airline pilot explains what you need to know—from turbulence to takeoff.
Travel Confidently
Fly with understanding, not fear.
Fear Shouldn't Keep You From...
Life keeps moving. Don't let fear of flying hold you back.
- Attending your daughter's wedding across the country
- Taking that career-changing opportunity in another city
- Finally visiting the places you've always dreamed about
- Being there for family when they need you most
Why Airline Pilots?
What's routine for us might create anxiety for you. We bridge that gap with knowledge.
Real Flying Experience
We fly these routes daily for major airlines out of NYC—through weather, turbulence, and every situation that worries passengers. What creates your anxiety is completely routine for us.
Teaching Background
We've taught thousands of people to fly. We know how to explain complex aviation topics in ways that make sense—without jargon or condescension.
Pilot Perspective
What's routine for airline pilots can cause intense anxiety for passengers. We bridge that gap with knowledge and understanding.
Have questions about how we can help?
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Answer a few questions to discover the most relevant aviation knowledge for your concerns
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What concerns you most about flying?
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Want to discuss your specific concerns with a pilot?
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What you experience vs. what's actually happening
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Meet the Airline Pilots
Active airline pilots who love sharing aviation knowledge

Julian Alarcon
ATP, CFII, MEI, Gold Seal
Airline: Major U.S. Airline
Aircraft: Boeing 777
Routes: Long-haul worldwide (Europe, Middle East, Asia)
Experience: 1,000+ hours of instruction
What I love to share: Helping anxious passengers understand what pilots do daily in wide-body jets

Peter Lynde
ATP, CFII, MEI
Airline: Major U.S. Airline
Aircraft: Boeing 737
Routes: Domestic and short-haul international
Experience: Captain with 1,000+ hours of instruction
What I love to share: Explaining flight operations and turbulence management from a captain's perspective

Elijah Burgess
ATP, CFII, Gold Seal
Airline: Republic Airways
Aircraft: ERJ-170/190
Routes: Domestic regional operations
Experience: Flight school founder, structured teaching approach
What I love to share: Breaking down complex concepts into understandable explanations

Charles Canavan
ATP, CFII, Gold Seal
Airline: Major U.S. Airline
Aircraft: Boeing 737
Routes: Domestic and international
Experience: Former charter pilot and airline captain
What I love to share: Sharing real-world airline operations and safety procedures
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Flight Simualtor Center in NYC
Our FAA-approved simulator facility brings professional flight training to New York City. Not a massive training center—just focused, one-on-one instruction with airline pilots in a comfortable office environment.
Experience our simulator with an airline pilot by your side
Choose How You'd Like to Learn
Learn aviation knowledge from airline pilots in the format that works for you
2-Hour Simulator Session
2 Hours In-Person
Two hours of conversation with an airline pilot—the simulator is just a tool for learning
In-person at our NYC location
Includes:
- Extended one-on-one conversation with airline pilot
- Your questions answered by someone who flies daily
- Hands-on demonstration of flight controls and procedures
- Understanding turbulence, sounds, and what pilots actually do
- Couples and partners welcome to learn together
- Resources and insights for your next flight
1-Hour Zoom Consultation
1 Hour Remote
Direct conversation with an airline pilot about everything that worries you
Remote via Zoom
Includes:
- One hour of focused Q&A with an airline pilot
- Address all your concerns and questions
- Learn what pilots think about during your flight
- Personalized insights for your specific routes
- Follow-up resources and materials
15-Minute Pre-Flight Brief
15 Minutes Remote
Quick conversation before an upcoming flight to address your specific concerns
Remote via Zoom or phone
Includes:
- Talk through what to expect on your flight
- Get answers about your specific route or aircraft
- Discuss any weather or operational questions
- Pilot perspective on what you'll experience
Questions Answered by Airline Pilots
General Questions
No. We're active airline pilots who fly for major U.S. airlines. We're not therapists, anxiety counselors, or medical professionals. We share our knowledge of aviation and what's routine for us as pilots. Many people find that understanding flight operations from pilots who fly daily helps reduce their anxiety.
Our instructors fly for major U.S. airlines and regional carriers, operating Boeing 737s, Boeing 777s, Airbus 320s, ERJ-170/190s, and other aircraft. They fly daily from NYC hubs to domestic, European, Middle Eastern, and Asian destinations.
Absolutely. If you tell us your route, aircraft type, and departure time, we can walk you through what the pilots will be doing at each phase, what ATC communications will happen, and what you might experience. We fly these routes ourselves.
For many people, fear comes from not understanding what's happening. When you hear a strange noise or feel turbulence, your mind imagines the worst. When you understand that it's a normal part of flight that pilots experience every day, it often reduces the anxiety. We can't promise it will cure your fear, but knowledge often helps.
Not at all. Most of our fear-of-flying clients have no interest in learning to fly. They just want to understand aviation well enough to be more comfortable as passengers. We tailor the session to your goals.
Our simulator is an FAA-approved training device with accurate flight controls, instruments, and systems—the same type airline pilots use for training. What makes it valuable for fear of flying isn't the physical sensation of being in a real plane, but the conversation: understanding flight mechanics, procedures, and decision-making from pilots who handle these situations daily. The controls and principles you learn are accurate, and you'll leave understanding why pilots are so calm about situations that create passenger anxiety.
Absolutely. Many couples and partners book 2-hour simulator sessions together. You can take turns at the controls while both asking questions and learning. It's a great way to share the experience and support each other. Just mention it when booking, and we'll accommodate you both.
Pilot Explains
Modern aircraft have redundant systems for everything critical. If one system fails, there are backups—and backups for the backups. Pilots train for emergency scenarios every six months in simulators. What seems like an emergency to passengers is often a routine procedure we've practiced dozens of times. We can show you exactly how pilots handle abnormal situations.
That's usually turbulence or the sensation during a normal descent. Your inner ear can't distinguish between actual falling and changes in acceleration. When we hit turbulence, the plane might drop a few feet, but it feels more dramatic to your body. The plane is designed to handle far more stress than what you're feeling.
We're monitoring the aircraft, communicating with ATC about smoother altitudes, coordinating with dispatch and other pilots, and ensuring the seatbelt sign is on. Turbulence is uncomfortable, but it's not dangerous. We experience it routinely and know how to manage it. Sometimes we can climb or descend to smoother air, sometimes we just ride it out.
We experience concern and heightened alertness in abnormal situations, but not fear in the way passengers do. That's because we understand what's happening, why it's happening, and what the procedures are. Training and knowledge replace fear with competence. That's what we hope to share with you.
It's a collaborative decision between pilots, dispatchers, maintenance, and ATC, all focused on safety. If weather is too severe, if maintenance finds an issue that needs fixing, or if ATC restricts flights, the flight gets delayed. No one is pressured to "push it." Every delay is a safety decision.
Still have questions? Get answers directly from an airline pilot.
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Thousands of hours of flight experience. Dozens of instructors. One goal: sharing aviation knowledge that helps you understand flying.
We're not therapists. We're pilots. Let us share what we know.
Manhattan Location
No Airport Required
Learn in Manhattan—not at an airport. No triggering airport environment, no weather delays, no parking hassles. Just a professional simulator facility where you can focus on learning.
- Midtown Manhattan (by appointment only)
- Accessible by major subway lines
- Professional FAA-certified simulator
- Comfortable, private learning environment
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